29th January 2014

This must be one of my husband's most tiring days and I'm not feeling well which isn't great timing - but thanks to our trial and the sex a day etc we're in surprisingly good spirits - we even managed to sit down with a lovely meal and wine tonight - watching Benidorm - which is great for lifting the spirits anyway!


We only have tonight and tomorrow night and we'll have had sex every day for a month! I really think it's having positive benefits and really helping us to stay sane and happy this month - especially with our difficulties at the moment with our house situation etc.


Let's see if tonight helps and if we actually manage to stay awake again! . . . . .

28th January 2014

I definitely think that all the serotonin from the daily sex and the positive mood and feeling from this are carrying me and my husband at the moment and I don't think there could be a better time for us to try this.


My husband is having one of the most stressful and difficult times at work and we have a lot of stresses going on with our children at the moment and we're trying to sell houses etc - a lot of hard work and stress at home too.


I think I can safely say we've had many difficult years that we've coped very well with and many more to come I'm sure - and if having sex, being close and therefore feeling happy and secure afterwards can help this - then we are blessed that we have this self help - bring it on!


We are very tired - my husband is working late at the moment - so let's see how tonight goes! . . . . .

27th January 2014

Again we were lucky that we kept to our promise last night as we were so worn out - such a stressful evening with our little boy being ill but we managed and actually, although we were so tired, it was just what we needed - very relaxing and took a lot of stress and anxiety away - I do believe it helped us cope better with today which was still stressful and tiring but I think our boy's getting a bit better - we'll see what tonight brings us . . . . . . .

26th January 2014

I'm writing this late as had a bit of a nightmare last night but the night before, the 26th we were so so tired!We struggled to keep awake but all was good and we certainly slept well but then the following day our little boy was ill - breathing difficulties etc - had to wait 3 hours at the hospital - going on and off ventilators and inhalers - stressful time and completely shattered when went to bed!

25th January 2014

Last night was very successful and the lie in in the morning was just what we needed - we even persuaded our little one to go back to bed and sleep for another hour!


Today my husband and I have felt tired and a bit washed out - that Sunday feeling you get sometimes - however we have managed to keep positive moods and to keep going and keep smiling - we still haven't sat down! Just about to make each other a coffee and beer!


I always feel I need at least one hour of chilling out with my husband in front of the tv and that's just what we're about to do now.


We are so tired tonight that I think we need an early night so let's see if it happens and may be another miracle if we can manage anything else too!

24th January 2014

Yesterday was good - the red wine didn't really have a bad effect - I think it must have been almost gone from our system and I think the sex definitely had really positive, beneficial effects as we felt happy, slept well and remained on fairly good form today.


I can only say fairly good form because it definitely seems to be coming up to my time of the month and I felt pretty impatient, grumpy and a bit tearful today but I actually managed this low ebb a bit better than usual, got past it and ended the day on a high - watched a good film with a lager and we've decided to have a lie in in the morning instead of swimming!


So off to bed I go - very tired now though!

23d January 2014

Last night was very good again and the sleep was great . . . . however, we did drink some red wine before bed and I did notice that it did affect us and made everything slower - whereas when we've had lager there hasn't been any effect - interesting . . . .


We had red wine again tonight - and even managed a film, 'haywire' - pretty good, not romantic though! So we'll see if it has any effect tonight.


Busy weekend ahead . . . .so off to bed . . . .

22nd January 2014

My post tonight has to be very short as we've had a hectic evening with kids - although they have been very good - but didn't get to it down until 10:30 and had a drink of our favourite shiraz whilst watching 'birds of a feather'!!


So now that we've had some red wine we need to hurry to bed before we fall asleep! Red wine does seem to have that sleepy yet relaxed feeling after drinking it! . . . . ..so I'm going to hurry off to bed . . . .
although did mean to say that last night was great (a bit different again which was good) and a lovely sleep to follow and a pretty good mood today although ~I have noticed that I've been a bit impatient and I think my time of the month could be coming up soon!!

21st January 2014

Yesterday went very well and slept better without stressful wake ups. No wet beds either! Infact I struggled to leave my bed this morning . . . . and think I may have made my daughter a little late for school!


I had a lovely day today but my husband is really struggling - he's very tired - and judging by his huffing and puffing I think I may be lucky if anything happens in bed tonight! . . . . . I'll see . . . .

20th January 2014

The 20th of the month feels like a bit of a milestone - this really is becoming a habit! It was meant to be 'blue Monday' yesterday but fortunately not blue for us - although I do wonder if the good old 'time of the month' is approaching as I feel a bit grumpy and moody but I think the 'sex a day' habit is keeping my grumpy/moodiness at bay (well I hope my husband would agree anyway!!) If the 'time of the month' is not approaching then this experiment may be having a very different result to the expected one!!!


Last night was very good again - however we are finding that each night takes a little longer (!) and are hoping it won't get longer and longer or there'll be no peaceful sleep! We slept well last night - although I did awake a bit anxious about the old neighbour again so I tried to resolve that situation today and I think I have.


The children seemed to have been very good tonight so I hope I don't go up to a wet bed or something now!


It will have been 3 weeks of daily love making after today - great!

19th January 2014

Well, a big result that we managed last night as so nearly didn't! The kids had worn us out and spoilt our moods and my husband was so tired  . . . . . but it happened in the end and it was very good - pretty much instantly put us in better moods and very importantly, it put us both into peaceful sleeps!
Felt much better today - tired - but much better in myself - lifted in spirits again.


Had a pretty boring PTA meeting tonight . . . . .and then watched a very sad 'coronation street' so think I need distracting now and my mind lifting . . . . so off to bed as getting late . . . .

18th January 2014

My goodness - day 18 - this does feel very habitual now! I am seriously beginning to think that we may be able to keep this going for a long time!


Yesterday great again - different but great - tried the cuddly stuff again - sleep was great (although was spoilt a little by a nightmare about an old neighbour who's being a bit of a bitch at the moment - I think the real nightmare is that what I am dreaming is actually true in real life! I could do with some hypnosis to put her out of my mind!)


However I maintained the good, positive frame of mind that the sex gave me and actually didn't mind when I had to get up very early today to take my little ones swimming - and was actually very pleased to leave my husband sleeping - as he needed to.


However, with children and with a very busy weekend of doing things for them, it's very hard to remain so upbeat and keep up the energy and as I write this I am still trying to get one of my children to stop doing homework, get her bag packed etc and PLEASE, PLEASE (!) GO TO BED!!!!  . . . .or there won't be anything happening between her dad and me tonight and that won't help our moods on a Monday morning . . . . . . . . .so let's see if it all works out in the end . . . . .

17th January 2014

I feel like we're really on a roll now (quite literally really!) and this is becoming a habit. A good habit and one that we're trying earnestly not to break!


Last night was great again and I don't even remember falling asleep - for someone like me who used to struggle terribly with insomnia and worrying all night - this is such a break through - and my husband's dreadful snoring which I don't even hear now!


Again I felt lifted, happy, relaxed (apart from those odd moments when my children really wind me up - then I'm not relaxed!!)


We went to look at a lovely gym today so I think if I can start getting more exercise (other than the dog walking and swimming and odd zumba class) then the happy hormones should be truly in full swing . . . . . who knows! . . . . . . .


Anyway after a great episode of 'hostages' and take away Indian, we're off to bed!

16th January 2014

It worked!! Great stuff!


After we had a little 'discussion' we realised we needed to follow 'the plan' or my blog posts would be messed up so we had sex  . . . . and it worked . . . . . . we felt better . . . . . we became closer again and we fell back into being happy and a bit more relaxed and less stressed.


I'm pretty amazed how good this 'having sex every night' is . . . . . it even makes you feel better after you've been a bit cross and grumpy with one another . . . . . . . otherwise we might have gone to sleep feeling cross, upset, giving the cold shoulder etc . . . . . . so it's true what they say, 'never go to sleep on an argument' (or something like that I think!)


So let's hope it works tonight too . . . . . . .

15th January 2014

Everything great and went well yesterday - good sleep - good day today - had a bit of good news.


But then this evening had a pretty hideous time with the kids and now my husband is also in a bad mood - great! So I think if we actually do have sex tonight it will be interesting to see if it lifts our moods as we need some of that brightness and positivity back!!


Here goes . . . 

14th January 2014

This was our 2 week mark! . . . . . and things just keep getting better . . . . . everything seems better . . . . we look forward to and have fun having sex every night . . . . it enables us to change things around a bit . . . . . not just the same each time . . . . . .we joke about keeping this blog going . . . . . . my husband thinks he may be going away with work and his boss in the next few months so I've said he'll just have to take me! I'm feeling well and best of all I'm feeling happy and positive about everything . . . . . . .even though, to be honest, we are having a lot of crappy things happening to us at the moment . . . . it's as if my spirits won't be dampened yet . . . . . and I feel really close and happy with my husband . . .as it should be.


Anyway, late as usual - have been sorting out my daughter's food tech ingredients . . . . . .so now to bed . . . . . .

13th January 2014

Wow! 2 weeks ago today I started writing this blog and now I'm getting quite used to it.


It's actually really helpful and positive to put all this into words and to really think about the physical side of our relationship and all the positive benefits it has. It's funny because quite early on in our relationship Alanis Morissette brought out the song, 'head over feet' which had the line: 'you're my best friend, best friend with benefits' and I really related to this song and to this line and we used to joke about it as we always have been best friends but with more of a relationship than best friends can have and this is still how I feel now - as my husband is my best friend and it is definitely a benefit that you can have a physical relationship too!


Last night we were very tired again but decided to really hold each other having sex as I said I needed a cuddle and closeness and my husband joked about it being a humpy cuddle (as we do often joke about 'rumpy pumpy' as it sounds more fun than just 'sex'!) Anyway it was really nice as we felt really close and happy and slept brilliantly  . . . .and even though we had a pretty stressful thing happening today with one of our kids, our moods didn't drop and we coped really well with the situation we had to go through . . . .I think it really helped . . . . . so anyway, I need to go to bed . . . . .and stop listening to Alanis Morissette!

January 12th 2014

We have just realised that if yesterday was day 12 then today will be day 13 - that's nearly two weeks of sex without a break  - and I wondered if that had happened to us before - my husband was quite confident and was sure that 'of course' we had had 2 weeks of sex every day but I'm not sure!


Anyway, day 12 was good again and again we're both pretty pleased with how well this is going - and that it's a good job one of us hasn't come in drunk or something or been terribly ill one night! We slept well last night and felt good today - my cold disappeared quickly - but we are very tired today - fell asleep in front of the TV again  . . .  .my husband has just taken some cups of tea to bed so I think I'll join him before they're cold and celebrate our 13th day today!

January 11th 2014

I had to wake my poor husband up last night after sorting out the little one's wet bed and then doing my daily blog! So tonight I'm doing my blog earlier . . . while he walks the dogs . . . so that when I go to bed tonight, he won't be asleep!!


However, my husband woke up and was happy enough to continue our 'once a day' experiment - and again it was good, we felt good and slept so soundly and quickly that I don't remember a thing afterwards . . . anyway I think it must have left us feeling in good moods and spirits this morning as I offered to take all 3 kids swimming on my own very early this morning and my husband very kindly helped to herd them out of the door for me!!


Maybe feeling more relaxed and happy lets you be the best person you can be - your more kind and considerate self rather than a more grumpy and disagreeable self (well in my case sometimes anyway!!)


So we're off to drink coffee to keep us awake and have a little sit down and relax before bed . . . . .

January 10th 2014

Yey! We have hit our 10th day! Just 355 days to go!!


My blog will be quick today as we've just been hit with another wet bed to change from our little one . . . things never quite go to plan . . . .a Saturday night too!


I think I mentioned at the beginning that I had always thought that love making/ having sex bonds a couple even more tightly together and that I personally think it really strengthens the relationship - it isn't just a physical connection but I think it's a deeply emotional connection too and I think it actually makes you closer to your partner physically, spiritually, in every way . . . . . .


 . . . Well this is how I felt after last night - last night was great - my husband is really making the effort to make this great every day - even though, as I said before, he's very tired. Last night reminded me of the great connection you feel with your partner both during and after sex. I felt loved, secure and bonded and therefore very happy and relaxed - and again this feeling of contentment lasted through today as well.


I'm beginning to think that maybe more sex could improve and restore many jaded relationships.


Anyway, I'll leave it there as I don't want to start sounding too irritating and I need to go to bed . . . .

January 9th 2014

Nothing out of the ordinary happened last night - thank goodness - but tonight we made the mistake of sitting down with a beer to watch a couple of hours of tv, then the bedtime faffing about began and now I'm tired! So I have been asked to be quick by husband (otherwise he'll be asleep and snoring when I get to bed . . . . and then tomorrow's blog will be pointless!!)


Last night was good again. Great sex and sleep. I was worried that having sex every night might make it less great as the days go on - but actually the opposite- it gets better - as if the practise every day just makes it better and more relaxing the next day - maybe it's the happiness element again - maybe having sex releases the serotonins and happy hormones so the next day and night you're on good form to have sex again - and so this may continue?? I will find out if this does continue and if this is true . . . . . so off to bed I go . . . .

January 8th 2014

It's funny that yesterday I thought I was about to float off to bed as I was in good spirits and all was going well - however that wasn't going to be!


Just as my husband and I thought we'd managed to get to bed earlier and were feeling pleased about that I checked on our youngest child - who , I discovered, had wet his bed     - great!  So about 45 minutes later than planned (after baths, sheet changes etc) we made it to bed. . . however still in good moods.


My husband, who usually gets more and more tired and struggles more with tiredness each day, pleasantly surprised me by being really keen and suggesting a slight change in our love making which was great and probably just what we needed . . . . and great sleep . . . . and so today was another positive day where I definitely felt in noticeably good spirits (even after a little altercation with another school mum in the usual nightmare school mum morning car traffic jam!)


So I'm now feeling really hopeful that while the daily sex continues so may the good moods and spirits - also on the medical front my cold has also got much better and nearly cleared up altogether!


So here's hoping there are no wet beds, visiting children or hail storms tonight . . . . 

January 7th 2014

No hailstorms and running to bus stops in pyjamas yesterday!


We seem to be getting into a good pattern now and going to bed is even more positive than usual - in fact my husband and I have a little laugh about it now as we know what's going to happen!


So . . . . good love making again and as mentioned before it definitely leaves us feeling happier, closer and relaxed. We had an uninterrupted sleep - I didn't hear the snoring which is a huge bonus and I felt happy when I awoke.


I really think this mood lift (which sex seems to bring about) really puts a positive spin on the day as I actually felt positive and lifted for most of the day - I loved my dog walk etc ( the only not good bit being when I almost had to confront my hideous old neighbour but I even managed to avoid that!)


So I'm going to float off to bed now while I'm still in a good mood . . .

January 6th 2014

Last night started great and should have ended great  . . . but didn't . . .


Great mood - great sex - great sleep initially but then a storm hit us and it hailed - woke us all up and set our car alarm off (the car which we have now lost the keys for and couldn't stop the alarm from going off!! eek! neighbours!?!) then just in case we hadn't noticed all this our daughter came to tell us . . . then we just didn't go back to sleep.


In the morning I tried to snooze through my daughter going to school but then noticed she'd left her dinner money so had to run after her  - to her bus stop in my pyjamas and wellies - I was almost too tired, stressed and breathless to be embarrassed!!


Let's hope tonight has a better ending!?

January 5th 2014

I almost gave up last night as felt so tired and unwell yet my husband pointed out that 4 days out of 365 was a bit disappointing so we carried on!

Something I've noticed is it isn't just the love making or sex that makes you feel good or puts you on a high it's actually how you feel about your partner at that time too. If I'm a bit upset with my husband I do feel a bit better and happier with him after sex and I often see problems in a better light. However if I'm feeling very happy with him; the sex is better, sleep is better and I feel really on top form!

Yesterday I was feeling very happy with my husband so even though it was late and we were tired etc the sex was very good and positive and I felt particularly happy and peaceful after  - so much so that I awoke in a good mood and actually felt pretty happy with all the mundane house tasks I had to do like taking down xmas decorations etc!

Let's hope we're both in a happy mood tonight . . . . . .

January 4th 2014

We're becoming more conscious now that we are deliberately making love every day!

However it's just as effective and again we both slept well and felt well rested - although we need to do better with the early nights  - too much faffing and tv watching!

I still felt ill today but I think it's going away and not getting worse - so maybe this is helping after all? I'll see in a couple of days.

January 3rd 2014

I'm not sure that this is working as well as I hoped!

So far the sleep after sex has been good but I'm feeling pretty rough today - I think I definitely have a cold. I was hoping that I wouldn't be ill so often so it's a pain that I am so soon.

I'm going to go to bed quickly now or I'll be too tired and ill to manage anything other than sleep tonight.

I even fell asleep watching 'Lucan' and that was a good drama!

January 2nd 2014

I am trying to post this blog quickly before the day's over but almost failing as the time ticks towards midnight.

I think what I have learnt today is that I actually need to start going to bed earlier to make this work otherwise both my husband and myself will be too tired for anything to happen - no matter how good the sleep is afterwards. We are also starting to both feel a bit ill so it's a catch 22 - we need to keep trying the sex a day to see if it cures us from illnesses but we're also feeling a bit nackered!!

We managed last night well - the second day of our trial and it certainly induced sleep and again I didn't hear the snoring and my husband struggled to wake with his alarm. So the sleep does seem to be better but now we need to work on getting to bed earlier tomorrow  - otherwise this trial might be short lived!

January 1st 2014

Over the last couple of years I have noticed that every time I make love with my husband I sleep well . . . . not just well but really, really well - pure, uninterrupted blissful sleep. This is especially noticeable as my husband is the loudest, most horrendous snorer and I don't even hear him - heaven!!

I have also noticed that if we have a good succession of love making days I don't seem to be ill very often or if I start with a cold I can shake it off pretty quickly - so again I wonder if all the theories of serotonin etc being produced in sex to lift the mood and fight against illnesses are true??

It certainly seems that having sex on a regular basis with someone you love is a great way of keeping fit, healthy, happy and sleeping well, and obviously sleep on its own helps all these things. I can't help thinking it's good for the relationship too - in every way.

So I have decided to try this out - and starting yesterday I suggested to my husband that we should try to make love every day this year and actually see how it benefits us both - and keep a diary of this. He didn't resist!

I need to end this blog quickly now before today comes to an end but I can report that on day 1, January 1st we both slept soundly afterwards and felt so peaceful in the morning that my husband overslept!